Getting Unstuck

Do you realize we’re almost halfway through the year? At the time when this episode goes live, the first 6 months of 2024 will be just about gone, which means there are 6 more months before the year is up. I want this year to be the year you finally stop struggling and you transform your life.

If you’re struggling, if you’re feeling a little run down, if you have a goal you really want to achieve but you just can’t seem to get there, I would love to spend the last 6-months of 2024 with you working together to get you to the Joyful you and the joyful life you want.

Imagine going into 2025 with increased confidence, the health you want, having the ability and the know how to regulate your emotions more easily, and showing up as the person you want to be with knowing how to think about yourself, others, and the world around you in ways that will benefit you tremendously.

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What You’ll Learn on this Episode:

• How to get unstuck and get yourself moving again.
• Why commitment is the key to success and how to commit to what you want.
• How to question yourself to discover where your motivation and excitement is going to come from.
• Why motivation alone generally isn’t the thing that gets you started in achieving your goals.
• Where “stuckness” comes from and how handle it like a boss.

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Transcript:

This is The Joyful You Podcast, episode 91, Getting Unstuck.

Welcome to The Joyful You Podcast.

On this show, I talk all about the tools you need to cultivate a healthy relationship with food, your mind, and your life.

I’m your host, Rachael Collins.

As an eating psychology practitioner, a certified life coach, and a weight loss expert, it is my mission to show you how to work with your body, manage your mind, process your emotions, and create supportive habits so you can live well, feel well, and become your strongest, healthiest, happiest, most amazing self, a joyful you.

Let’s do this.

Hey there.

Do you realize we are almost halfway through the year?

At the time when this episode goes live, the first six months of 2024 will be just about gone, which means there are six more months before the year is over.

Crazy, huh?

I want this year to be the year that you finally stop struggling and the year that you transform your life.

I love watching HGTV, especially the home remodel shows, where they take an old home, and they take what’s already there and what’s beautiful and unique about the home and they transform it and they bring it back to its full glory.

Coaching is a lot like this.

We take the parts of us that are maybe in need of a little extra loving, and we get rid of the parts that aren’t quite working, and we shine up the parts that are, and we end up with something really fun.

If you are struggling, if you are feeling a little bit run down, if you have a goal that you really want to achieve, but you just can’t seem to get there, I would love to spend the last six months of 2024 with you working together to get you to the joyful you and to get you to the joyful life that you want.

Imagine going into 2025 with increased confidence, with the help that you want, at the weight that you want, having the ability and the know-how to regulate your emotions more easily, and showing up as the person that you want to be, able to think about yourself the way that you want to think about yourself, others the way that you want to think about others, and thinking about the world around you in ways that will benefit you tremendously.

Spots to my one-on-one private coaching are open.

So if you are interested and you want to talk more about what coaching could do for you, sign up for a breakthrough session.

You can sign up on my website, ajoyfulyou.com.

Just click the link for a joyful breakthrough that is at the top of the page.

Alright, I hope to talk to you soon.

Alright, let’s dive into today’s topic.

Today, I want to talk about getting unstuck.

Now, there are a few ways that we can think about this.

So here’s what I mean by unstuck.

The unstuck that I am referring to is maybe a habit you’re trying to implement or break.

Maybe it’s a goal you’re working on or a project that you want to accomplish that maybe you were once excited about, but now you’ve lost momentum.

Maybe you’ve given up or perhaps you can’t even seem to get started.

You feel stuck and you don’t know how to get unstuck.

I recently went through a long period where I had a goal, but every time I even thought about getting started on it, it felt like there was this block that was preventing me.

Some days it felt like a brick wall that would just pop up and would not let me through.

I felt stuck.

Have you ever felt this way about something?

Now, feeling stuck doesn’t have to be so big, so dramatic.

It can also be smaller too.

For instance, sometimes when I sit down to prepare a lesson or talk for church, I feel stuck.

However, in whatever way, big or small, you are feeling stuck.

I want to offer you a few things that can help you.

The first thing is to just start.

A lot of times we are waiting to feel motivated before we begin.

But here’s the thing.

Motivation is rarely there when you start.

It usually doesn’t show up until you get going.

This is why I recommend a baby step, a floor, something so easy to do, just so that you will start.

Because once you do start, then motivation will come along and will help you to keep going or help you to finish.

If this concept is new to you or you need a refresher on the baby steps or the floor, go back and listen to my podcast on floors and ceilings.

You will find it really useful.

Alright, back to motivation.

Sometimes when it comes to motivation, we like to look to our past for motivation.

Well, I used to be so good at working out every day, and now I’m just not motivated to do it, and we feel stuck.

Like I said, we’re usually sitting around, waiting for motivation to sweep in, and it rarely sweeps in in the beginning.

Remember, it comes once we start.

So instead of waiting for motivation to start, just start.

Now this is where commitment comes into play.

You commit to yourself that you are just going to do it, that you’re just going to start something, and then you keep that commitment.

For example, my family has a dentist appointment today, and I am not super excited about going.

I don’t particularly feel motivated to drive all the way up to the dentist’s office, sit for two hours while everyone gets their checkups and their teeth cleaned, but I made a commitment, and so I’m going to keep that commitment.

Treat the commitments that you make with yourself like a commitment you make with others.

Treat it like an appointment that you would make with someone else.

On that same topic of commitment, I want to briefly talk about the difference between being committed to something and being interested in something.

A lot of us, me included here, we are interested, but we are not committed.

We want it, but we don’t.

We would love it if it just fell into our lap, but we don’t really want to take action or follow through to get it.

If you are only interested, I’m going to give you permission right now to just stop thinking about it and not want it.

Maybe one day in the future you will, but for now it’s okay to just let it go.

Now if you do decide that you want it, you decide that you are done being interested, then commit, commit to making it happen.

This is what commitment looks like.

If I tell my child, I am going to pick you up, then I am committed to that.

And even if I have to wake up early in the morning, or I am tired, or I don’t necessarily feel like it in the moment, I am still going to pick them up, no matter what.

This is the way that I want you to think about committing to your goal.

Commit to yourself like you commit to others, like you commit to picking up your kid.

You are not going to just not pick up your kid because you just didn’t feel like it, right?

We don’t do that.

Tell yourself, I am going to follow through and do this thing no matter what.

When it comes to committing, I also want you to remember that we do not have to overcommit.

We do not need to run farther than we have strength.

We don’t have to commit more than we can handle.

Keep it small and simple, reasonable and doable.

All right, that’s the first thing.

The second thing is to make it not about you.

Now there are two ways that I want to think about this.

The first is to make it about future you.

So there’s past you, there’s present you, that’s you right now, right here in this very second, and then there’s future you.

I want to think about future you.

My daughter did high school cheer, and she rarely felt motivated or excited to get up at 5:30 a.m.

in the dark, drive to practice in the freezing cold all before school, but she did.

She knew that her future self, when it came time to perform and time to compete, would be so happy and so grateful that she got up early and she put in the work.

So when it comes to your goals, think about the future you.

What is the future you going to be so happy and so grateful that you did now as present you, so that in the future, you have what you want?

Make sense?

So here are some questions to ask your future self.

What does she need or want?

What’s one thing she needs me to start doing right now?

What’s one thing she needs me to stop doing?

What does she need me to be willing to give up?

What does she need me to be willing to start?

What sacrifice does she need me to make?

Am I willing to do that or not?

When you are answering these questions, be honest with yourself.

It’s okay if the answer is no.

If it is, then maybe this thing, this exercise, this tool isn’t for you.

Just go try another one.

Everyone is different, and so some things that I’m sharing are going to work for you, and some things aren’t.

No biggie.

Doesn’t mean that you’re broken.

It doesn’t mean that you’re weird.

Just go pick another one and try that.

The goal is to get you moving and out of unstuck.

So find whatever works for you.

Now the second way that I want to think about making it not about you is to let doing it for someone else motivate you.

For example, I don’t always feel like making dinner.

But I know my kids and my husband will be healthier if I do.

So a lot of nights, I do it for them.

But here’s the thing.

Once I get going, it also becomes about me too, right?

Once I get going, that motivation swoops in.

And I also feel motivated to do it for my future self because I know that my future self, the one that wants to be healthy and have her hormones working properly and wants a certain level of energy, will also appreciate me making dinner.

So sometimes thinking about doing it as a service for others can help you get unstuck, it can help you to get moving.

But I want you to be really, really careful when it comes to this because I don’t want this to turn into an I should or I have to.

I want you to only do it if it’s something that you also want.

Alright, that is the second thing.

The third thing is to be the boss of your brain.

When it comes to taking action, your brain is going to give you tons of excuses not to.

It will fill you with fear and worry and anxiety and doubt and undesire.

Because our primitive brain’s motivation, its motivation, is to seek pleasure, avoid pain, and save energy by doing what it’s always done, by running on autopilot.

It doesn’t want you to get outside of your comfort zone because that’s painful.

It wants you to keep doing what you’ve been doing because doing new things takes energy and brain power.

It wants you to stay stuck in victim mode and to think that you can’t do it.

It wants you to stay stuck in overwhelm and to make a mole hole into a mound because, believe it or not, these things, while they seem painful on the outside, we really get pleasure from playing these roles.

We get something out of it.

It is pleasurable to us.

So if we let our brains be the boss and we listen to it, we will stay stuck.

But here’s the good news.

You don’t have to listen to your brain.

And you are actually the boss.

This is one of the things that I teach my clients how to be.

It works in all areas of your life.

Relationship issues, confident issues, weight loss, the way you think about yourself and your body, all areas.

When you understand how to be the boss of your brain, it empowers you and your life explodes.

It is such an awesome thing.

If you want to learn how to be the boss of your brain, as well as get additional help getting unstuck and reaching your goal, I would love to be your coach and spend the rest of the year together.

If you are ready to transform your life, go to ajoyfulyou.com forward slash work with me, and let’s get you feeling better.

Alright, that’s all I have for you today.

I hope you have an amazing week.

I really, really appreciate you tuning in and listening and sharing these podcasts with others.

It truly means the world to me, and I am so grateful.

I think you are amazing, and as always, I am cheering you on.

I’ll see you next time.

Bye-bye.

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