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Victim Mentality
Today I want to discuss something that typically gets in the way of us going “all in”. Something that keeps us stuck and prevents us from creating the results we want. It also keeps us from experiencing joy. In fact, it causes the opposite of joy. It creates a lot of resentment, bitterness, sadness, hopelessness, and sometimes even anger. I’m talking about Victim Mentality. Victim Mentality is just a habit. Tune into today’s podcast to learn how to break it. FEATURED ON THE SHOW Kevin Hamilton Article Reinventing Yourself The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People Learn More on my Website Follow me on Instagram TRANSCRIPT: I’m Rachael Collins…
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5 ways to stop worrying
When it comes to emotions, there are ones that are useful and ones that are not. Worry is one of those that is not useful. So, why do we worry? We worry because our brain thinks it is useful. It tricks us into thinking that worrying will help us avoid pain and discomfort But actually what it does is the opposite. It causes pain and discomfort because worrying feels terrible! (Can I get an amen?) wor.ry According to the Collins dictionary (yep that’s a real thing- I didn’t make it up), “if you worry, you keep thinking about problems or unpleasant things that MIGHT happen.” —Keyword is MIGHT but probably…
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Fear
Does fear hold you back from living your life to the fullest? Are there dreams you want to achieve but are scared to take the needed action? On this episode I dive in where these fears come from and how to tackle them. We discuss the two core fears that run our lives and how to face our fears head on! Showing up in your life may require some fear but with the tools I want to teach you today, you’ll be better equipped to handle any fear that comes your way. Tune in to learn more. Mentioned on this episode: Follow Rachael on Instagram – @ajoyfulyou Choosing Clarity:…
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Stop Buffering
Buffering is whatever activity we do to try to escape from, or cope from, or hide from what’s really going on in our lives and from what we’re feeling. It’s a distraction from having to deal with our emotions, especially the ones we don’t like feeling. As humans, we don’t like to feel uncomfortable. So when we experience an intense or a negative emotion that doesn’t feel good, it’s normal for us to want to escape it or to cushion the impact of it, to buffer it away, to protect ourselves. As humans we feel entitled to feel good and pleasure and sunshine and daisies all of the time. This…
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The Toddler in All of Us
We all have a TODDLER living inside our brain. There are two of the “main parts” of the brain: the Adult Brain and the Toddler Brain. Most of us our functioning with our Toddler Brain. Our Toddler Brain is all about functioning in the moment, and getting immediate gratification. It is reactive and just wants to do what feels good in the moment. It doesn’t like to wait for things or reason things out. It wants what it wants and it wants it NOW! Our Toddler Brain is really good at throwing really loud temper tantrums, and it can whine like it’s going out of style. It acts exactly like…
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Redefining Health Part 1: Intellectual Well-Being
We tend to think of HEALTH as being free from illness or injury, being trim and fit, and in good shape. I used to think the same, until just recently. In this episode I introduce my definition of health and the first of 4 areas we should work on to live a balanced life so we can truly change and begin showing up as our best selves. Today we begin with the area of Intellectual Well-being. Intellectual health is engaging in creative and mentally-stimulating activities. We can also group mental health in with this. We address creation verses consumption, And how to train the brain to start choosing what you…
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How to Change Your Life
If you don’t like the way things are, stop believing the stories you are telling yourself about them. We all have our “stories” about certain things. For example: I’m not enough. I’ll always be overweight. I’m awesome at showing up for my kids. No one likes me. I can’t do this. I’m the queen of baking. My kids are naughty. I’m such a loyal friend. My husband doesn’t love me. etc. Some stories move us forward, but often our stories are what’s holding us back and making us feel stuck. Our “stories” are simply a bunch of thoughts we think over and over until they become a belief. These…
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Self-Made Prison
Do you sometimes feel like you are is stuck in a prison? You try to free yourself but nothing seems to ever work. You’ve tried program after program, Read diet book after diet book, Self-help post after self-help post None of them work long-term or maybe not at all. You end up feeling more stuck. What if I told you there is a way out? What if I told the key to unlocking the prison cell is YOUR MINDSET. The mind is like a very powerful computer. The things you focus on are what your mind seeks to create for you. At some point and to no fault of your…
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Really Going Places!
I’ve been thinking a lot lately about how much control and power we give to what our body looks like. We let it dictate our worth, our value, what and how much we’re allowed to accomplish and do in the world, who we can be friends with, and the list goes on and on. We give it so much power. News Flash: YOUR BODY DOES NOT DEFINE YOU! What counts, my friend, is on the inside – your spirit. What truly matters is your personality, how you treat others, your spunk, your humor, your determination, your faith, your loyalty, etc. This is what makes you beautiful. These are the things…
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The Manual
Most of us have these huge, thick, extra long manuals we’ve written for other people. A Manual is basically a book of instructions or rules we think other people should follow. For example, in my “Manual” for my next door neighbor, it states that they should not be allowed to have any annoying, yappy, biting dogs. A lot of LDS moms have manuals for their children that state that they should grow up, graduate from high school, serve an honorable mission, graduate from college, marry in the temple to a spouse who gets along perfectly with the family, and go on to raise perfect children who do the same. We…
